My daughter came home from school a few days ago looking gloomy and defeated. Actually, she’d been looking like that for the past week. I’d asked her what was going on but she really wouldn’t share any details with me. Well, I’d had enough of trying to be the “best-seller book parent” while I waited until she “felt” comfortable to share with me on her own …so I prodded.
I won’t share exactly what she told me but what I will share is that she felt somehow inadequate.
A feeling that I know all too well.
As a matter of fact, when she told me how she was feeling, I knew I needed to address this because of the spiraling effects of these feelings.
I think most women feel this way at one point in their lives or another. As homemakers living in a society that does not understand the ministry of servitude and the beauty of homemaking, we can easily subscribe to feelings of inadequacy.
To combat these feelings, I have found that it’s vital to be grounded in our worth and our mission.
I was blessed to be able to provide her with some hard-won encouraging words. What I have learned as I’ve gone through my own trials.
My advice to her …Celebrate the Small Wins!
Why Celebrating Small Wins is So Important
Every day we are not going to feel like superstars. We won’t finish our to-do lists, we’ll get rejection letters, forget about something that needed to get done and demolish that recipe. Life is simply going to happen.
If we don’t make it a habit to celebrate the small wins that we experience then we will constantly focus on the not-so-happy aspects of our lives.
Our glorious and ominous Father knows this and has provided us with guidance in this matter.
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” -1 Thessalonians 5:18
We are to give thanks.
Being grateful helps to keep your focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have.
It’s an opportunity to give thanks for the gifts that God has given you. How He has made you unique and for his grand purpose. SO here are a few ways we can demonstrate thankfulness and celebrate our wins.
Three Practical Tips To Celebrate Small Wins
Step 1: Remember who you are. I listed this first because I think this is the most important step to celebrating our wins. For me, I know that I am the daughter of the Most High, but I don’t always remember that I am. You’ve probably heard this a million times, but WRITE IT DOWN!
Nothing is better than a good old-fashioned visual reminder. Add it to your vision board or place a note where you can see it. Make it beautiful so that you will pay attention to it and remember who you are. If you’re not feeling very creative, you may like this one.
Step 2: Make a list of what you are most proud of about yourself. On many occasions, I have felt like I’m not very good at much. I didn’t consider how well I organized my small pantry or decorated my living space on a shoestring budget. It’s important that you continue to update your personal resume. List out all the things that you’ve accomplished or done well. Add to the list things that other people think that you do well also. Keep it updated. And thank God for granting the gifts to excel at these tasks.
Step 3: Actually “celebrate” the small wins. This may be the most difficult step on this list. You may want to skip this step, but promise me that you won’t. You can celebrate a simple win such as waking up on time, sticking to your routine, marking one thing off your list, showing up for someone, writing that post, or making it to the homeschool co-op this week. It doesn’t matter what it is, but choose something to be proud of each day and treat yourself to a pat on the back getting it done.
I’m feeling pretty good about finishing this post right now, so I’m treating myself to a cup of coffee with my favorite caramel macchiato creamer…delish!!
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Blessings, and Happy Homemaking!