A Letter of Encouragement For The Homemaker

A Letter of Encouragement For The Homemaker

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven.”  

-Ecclesiastes 3:1 WEB

Sweet friend, I can’t tell you the number of times that I have found myself in need of encouraging words to get me through my hectic days. 

I’m frustrated as yet another day passes where I have not completed all of the tasks that were on my to-do list.

My schedule seems to be completely over-loaded with errands, chores, planning, and shuffling the children to and from their obligations. Did I mention trying to maintain a healthy marriage in the midst of all that?

This pattern seems to be a never-ending cycle.

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Expectations Can Derail Our Joy

These “tasks” are a far cry from what I had imagined my life to be when I graduated from college.  You may be able to relate to this.

I think many women, that are now homemakers, planned to be spending their time in the workforce, climbing the corporate ladder to success. 

Perhaps you envisioned yourself working in a formal capacity helping people on a large scale. Missionary work, AmeriCorps, or helping others recover from natural disasters, to name a few. 

These are all important, noble, and needed aspirations.  

Nowadays, we have only to turn to our social media outlets for reminders of what is thought to be the important things in life. 

There are tons of images of people sharing the “big things” that they are doing in their lives.  It’s so easy to feel that we are somehow stuck doing something minuscule on the grand scale of life.

If we buy into the notion that certain activities have more importance than others, it will become easy to get down on ourselves.  We will begin to feel discouraged when we don’t get to everything on our never-ending lists.

We may even begin to think of ourselves as less-than.  As if our work is not as important as some others.

When the truth is, God has a plan for us.  He is using our work for good.

“We know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

– Romans 8:28

Encouragement In God’s Love

It is my hope that we can find encouragement and joy in this truth that we are called according to His purpose for us.  In serving others, beginning with those in our homes. 

We can be at peace leaning into the small things that don’t seem to be as important as working in a glamorous position.

Put those frustrations around incomplete to-do lists and overlooked schedules to rest.  We can plant our hope in the knowledge that God has thoughts of peace for us.  Peace and not frustrations. 

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and a future.”  -Jeremiah 29:11 WEB

Keeping our eyes on the things that we actually do get done, will helps us stay planted in our purpose.  Sharing our hearts and talents from a place of love, and a desire to help others.  Knowing that we are glorifying God in lovingly cleaning up that mess, putting in that load of laundry, or volunteering for a child’s event.

We are doing all of these things to create a special place.  A place of comfort and love.  A place that represents our eternal joy, here on earth.  We’re creating home!

Have you felt discouraged lately in your homemaking journey?  Do you have a go-to scripture to share that inspires you? If you know someone that would benefit from this post, please share on your social media.  Thank you!

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Blessings, and Happy Homemaking!

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  1. I agree!! Whether homemaking was the original plan or not, it is still hard to keep the perspective that we are serving our families AND glorifying God in the everyday….in all the mess! Thanks for sharing!!!

  2. Girl you had me at Expectations derail our joy! Great post, pinned to share with our Living Our Priorities community. Stopping by from By His Grace Bloggers.

  3. This post is SO on-point. How true that, as “homemakers” (dare I say JUST homemakers?) we can not only be very hard on ourselves for all that we don’t feel like we’ve gotten done, but some of us have others who mock us for it. I know I’ve been accused of not helping my husband and lots of other ridiculous things. It was only after we, my husband and I, talked about it and prayed about it, that we were really released to be all the God had for us to be in our respective positions in the family.

    The Bible sums it all up, really, when it talks about the Body, with each member having a different role. What if the entire body were just an eye, or an ear? Where would the diversity of works be? Not all members can do the big jobs, but in the same way, not all were cut our for the role of homemaker 🙂 So thankful that God creates us each in His own perfect way!

    1. Stacey, thank you so much for sharing! You are so right in that we all have different roles and those roles need to be nurtured through respect for their differences. They are ALL important! I was cleaning eggs from a skillet the other day, (I loathe cleaning eggs from the skillet) and thought about just how much I dislike the task. God blessed me with the realization that even though I myself don’t care for eggs, my husband and children LOVE them. You should see how much joy it brings them when I serve a big ole’ plate of cheesy eggs. This is just one of the millions of examples illustrating how the small things play a bigger role in our homemaking because we are all creating a home.

      Just an additional thought on this Stacey. You are also right that we are all blessed with unique gifts. I think that we are all “coded” with a deep inner need for a place to call home. I think we crave it on a subconscious level to be home (our heavenly home really). The first thing God did with Adam was to place him in the garden, his home and gave him work to do naming things. So, even though we may not feel like homemaking comes naturally to us, we still crave it in some way. The blessing of this is, God gives us an opportunity to create previews (if you will). Just like marriage is supposed to represent our relationship with Christ, I think creating a peaceful, comfortable, and loving home is representative of our desire for our eternal home. Whew (lol) …all of that to say, even though it may take some work, guidance, prayer, lots of girl-night outs, or something, it’s definitely worth sowing into. Homemaking is SO MUCH MORE than housekeeping and decorating, it all about relationship really.

      Thank you again for sharing, I LOVE this discussion!

  4. I had big ideas on what my future would look like, Air Force pilot, serving my country in a huge capacity… then I became a mom and everything changed. And you know what? After years of thinking about what ‘could’ve been’ I realize that I am serving my country in a huge way after all. I am raising men and women of God. For whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Cor 10:31. My family and my home are my calling. Thank you for this post!

    1. Tatiana, I’m completely with you on that. Thank you for sharing 1 Cor. 10:31, our homes and families ARE our callings for God’s glory!

  5. Beautiful words, Claudea! This spoke to me. I absolutely love being a homemaker. It is a ministry to serve my household. But you are right, there are times when it can seem overwhelming and never-ending. Thank you for sharing scripture and heartfelt words to strengthen us.
    LaDonna | Faith Family and Miracles

  6. This REALLY hits home for me! I have never been the best homemaker, even though I’m still young and learning, but it truly discourages me when at the end of another day the house is still a mess because I didn’t get everything done. I LOVE being a homemaker though. I have been trying to give myself grace (since I’m 7 months pregnant!) and tell myself I can’t do it all, but it is hard. Thankfully God gives me encouragement and steps up in all the ways that I fail. Thank you for this!

    1. Madison, congratulations on your pregnancy, how exciting!!! You’re so right about the discouragement at the end of the day when you look around and still see so many things that need our attention. However, I LOVE that you mention “GRACE!” What a powerful thing that is! Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your heart with us.

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