Lately, I have questioned my effectiveness in my roles as a homemaker, wife, and mother. Honestly, I have been inconsistent in the encouragement, gentleness, and servant leadership departments. Today I’d like to rectify that by first sharing a bit of encouragement with you, if you have struggled with this as well.
I think we all come to a place in our journey’s where we begin to revisit and question our motivations for pursuing certain passions, vocations, and even our abilities. It is inevitable that we arrive at a place of introspection and evaluation. We must take a moment to stop and review where we are, where we have come from, and where we are going.
This questioning can sometimes reveal some things that are difficult to accept. When we are honest with ourselves, we may find that we haven’t been as skilled in certain areas or that we need to work on bits and pieces of our character.
This process is crucial for growth.
I’ve recently been through a season of self discovery. I’ve needed to be completely honest with myself. I had to muster up a little courage and then take a long hard look at myself.
This began with getting crystal clear on the goals that I have for my life and family. I needed to write out what I would consider to be success in my life, in a tangible way. For example, I consider having a warm and engaged relationship with my children when they become adults a success. What might that look like? Perhaps regular quality time spent with each of them. Sunday dinners. An annual trip as a family.
With this goal in mind then, I can begin to plant the seed in my children now of my expectations, but also nurture the relationship to build the foundation.
Friend, this is where I found myself lacking. Burnout, or just plain old frustration, has derailed my focus. Nurturing relationships is the heart of homemaking. Without it, a home is just a house, a residence where people come to get what they need in order to leave.
“The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. “
-Proverbs 14:1 ESV
If you are anything like me, I was not raised in a home where my mother was able to take me under her wing and teach me the intricacies that go along with godly homemaking. This is a goal that, through God’s grace I have come to desire. Thus, I’ve needed to learn along the way.
I decided that I needed a tool to assist me in staying focused on my goal and build my home. The Wise Woman Building Her Home: Journey Journal.
I developed this simple daily journal to assist me in keeping my goals of relationship building in the forefront of my mind. I’d like to share it with you as well.
I simply take a few moments in the morning to write down my home building goals for the day. I ask myself Is there a particular relationship in my life that needs my attention? Do I need to focus on a particular characteristic such as gentle guidance or correction of my younger children? Do I need to focus on respecting the decisions of my adult children? Perhaps I’d like to send a gift or card to a friend. I make a note of any relational goals that I have for the day.
After writing our my goals, I’m able to move about my day remembering that I want to be intentional about my interactions, behaviors, and decisions. At the end of my day, I can quickly evaluate my success by simply ticking a box (or not).
I have found the Wise Woman Building Her Home: Journey Journal to be an easy, yet profound way to keep me accountable to my goals. I’m hoping you will find it equally as enjoyable and useful.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic of building our homes as women, homemakers, wives, and mother’s, through intentional relationship building. Is this something that you are good at naturally or would you benefit from a tool such as the Wise Woman Building Her Home: Journey Journal?
I’d also love to hear from you if you use the Journey Journal and have any critiques or input to make it a more useful document.
I’d love for you to come alongside me on this journey, follow me on Instagram @minsitryhomemaking for inspiration, encouragement, and to celebrate our successes together.